This is Part 3 of You Canâ€™t Have Children. Make sure youâ€™ve read Part 1 & 2 before you continue.
As we sat in the parking lot, I could hear my heart pounding against my chest. My mind was racing. I wondered if Iâ€™d be cool enough. I was afraid my accomplishments wouldnâ€™t measure up. I felt inadequate. Then a car pulled up 3 spaces over. A young couple appeared. Hesitant. Half smiles. With obvious apprehension. Table for 4 please. And there we were face to face sipping our cold sodaâ€™s when the birth mom quietly brought out a small pad of paper and pen and started asking questions. I answered until she seemed satisfied. The birth father hadnâ€™t said 2 words. So, I asked him what he enjoyed doing. He shrugged and said he liked to bowl. Funny, God has a sense of humor. At that time I was in two bowling leagues. And, of course, that sparked an instant connection. Bowlers unite! Writing about this feels like it all happened yesterday.
After about an hour we said our goodbyes and I joined Pastor Joe and his family for dinner. He asked if he could pray for Godâ€™s will and we did. If you would have known me during this time of my life, you would understand just how unusual this story is. I didnâ€™t talk much about having children. This left my wife reeling with frustration and the pain of not having me there, willing to communicate during our journey with infertility.
The next morning came early. Pastor Joe picked me up for the airport and just as I got in the car he said I needed to contact the social worker right away. I called and she informed me that if I wasnâ€™t serious about adoption that I needed to tell her because the birth parents had called saying they wanted more information about our family. Whew! I figured now was probably a good time to call my wife back in Nashville to tell her what was up.
When Kim answered the phone I said, â€œyouâ€™re never going to believe what I did last night.â€
I was home within a few hours after our talk and we started collecting pictures and we videoed Kim saying hi to the birth parents. We sent everything Fed-Ex and waited. I had no idea that Kim had slipped a letter in with the package to the birth mom.Â Hereâ€™s part of that letter.
â€œI canâ€™t imagine what you are feeling as you are preparing to make one of the greatest decisions of your life. When Regi told me we were going to be among those considered to be your little girlâ€™s parents, I cried and cried and cried. I never dreamed it could happen. But I realize how hopeful our future is and how God can work miracles in very mysterious ways. Please know above all that whether or not you choose Regi and me, it is my hope that you find peace in your choice of parents and that you gain the wisdom needed to make this decision. However, If we are your choice, you can be assured every night before you go to sleep that your baby will be loved unconditionally. My arms have longed to be filled with a baby for so long that I donâ€™t know if I would ever let go of her. We are truly honored that youâ€™ve even considered us. You have given me yet another momentâ€™s strength and another dayâ€™s hope. May your years be filled with peace, love and happiness.â€
The next few days seemed like forever.
Part 4 The Final Chapter coming soon.